You Can’t Hurry Love

by Ben Perreira

Just like mama said (then The Supremes, then Phil Collins), you can’t hurry love.

A professor I had for “Arbitration and Mediation” used to say this all the time in reference to negotiating agreements. He also kept telling the class that he had been a mediator for 35 years and should know how this works. Emotions have to sizzle then simmer and numbers/ figures have to marinate before one can enjoy the final, mutually satisfactory agreement. Only after this process, this dance, does the final product seem to be win-win.

Whether assembling a transaction, settling a dispute, or looking the right suit for a late spring trip to Europe (as I currently am), you can’t hurry love.